August 7, 2010
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My Ex: The Stalker
I read Da__Vinci’s post earlier, and took his advice in setting up Sitemeter. No sooner had I done this, that I went back to my Xanga home page and noticed this:
That’s right, the ex husband. (That’s not his full screen name, by the way). I don’t know if he signed in this time because he was thoughtless, or whether it was deliberate. I’ve noticed other Footprints from Ohio, most of which I can identify as people other than my ex, but some I was fairly certain were him. It wasn’t until today that I was certain.
And, because I had just installed Sitemeter, I know that he was viewing from the library:
He told me a long time ago, while we were still married, that he shut down his site. I guess he didn’t, he just blocked me at that time, and I didn’t check to see which it was because I really didn’t give fuck.
I still don’t give a fuck. I thought maybe I should go on Friend’s Lock again, but I’m not. He cannot dictate to me what freedoms I have, and he cannot take away my freedom of speech, or make me feel like I have to “watch what I post” anymore. And, if I really want to post something for only a few eyes to see I can always post protected.
I am sure he is still lurking, even though I blocked him from my site, though he’d have to log out to do so. That’s okay. Golden, make sure you don’t miss this post, though I think you’ve already seen it:
Last 10 Years to Present, My Life
Then, just go away. There is nothing here for you to see, and if you continue to stalk me I will get a protection order against you. This is your second warning. You will not get a third. Fuck off.
Comments (24)
He’s such a fucking weirdo! Is he really THAT pathetic? bahahahaha.
Love you mom, and I love Ray too Love, Marisa.
It never ends ,does it? I am glad that you are not going on friends lock,
@Marisa - Yes, he’s that pathetic. I love you, Roo! So does Ray.
@seedsower - Doesn’t seem to ever end. I love you, too, Beth!
Maybe he just likes to read your blogs for the same reason I do… because you are a great writer!
@Aloysius_son - Oh, yes, that’s probably the reason! BWAHAHAHA! Thanks, I needed that!
And thank you for the compliment, sincerely. 
No, no, Lisa…tell us how you really feel. Don’t hold back.
@Xcholo4u - I know, I have a problem expressing myself and my anger.
you can’t believe him
@Babyboomerjill - No, I can’t, but what do you mean? I’m lost…LOL
Wow, what a burden to carry. Some people don’t know when to quit.
@paoguy118 - True, but I hope he learns soon. *sigh*
Xanga stalkers are creepy, even more so when they know you IRL.
@breaking_expectations - Very true!
@CynaraJane - if he says he closed his xanga blog -he probably didn’t
@Babyboomerjill - Got ya! There were/are so many things I could never believe…
Sigh… that’s ridiculous!
He’s one sick and twisted phuck… that’s for damned sure.
@Far_Skies - Yes, he is. I love you, my girl!
@CynaraJane - Love you too mommeh
@TheCheshireGrins - You’d think after so long he’d have better things to do than use his library online time to look at my blog. It is ridiculous.
My ex went through this phase of “I dont’ know why we can’t be friends! Why do people have to fight?” So… he was on my MySpace…. I posted something months before that, and when I posted a new thing, I guess it drew his attention to the old stuff (cause this is the only reason I can think of that he went back and read all the old stuff.)… and he read a post I made that was more like a “vent”…but it was all vague, all anonymous… unless you KNEW, you wouldn’t know what it was about… right??? Well.. he knew, he knew it was about him… this led to such a big fuckin deal…. he threated the child support and etc… said maybe he’d just “get it through the state and see how I liked that.” because he thought they would refigure it and he would pay less than his agreed amount… HA on him… because the easiest way to take away the threat is to just do it… so I filed papers for the state thing and they did NOT reduce what he owed, and not only that, when he went 3 months without paying a dime, they took him to court to take away every state issued license he was in possession of (DL, hunting, fishing, whatever)…. unless he paid.
He pays now and I don’t have to talk to him.
But. he isn’t my friend on Myspace anymore, but I have that site open for everyone and just know that it is. He’s blocked from my Facebook. No one knows my Xanga exsists except those i want to know….
……oops… sorry about the rant.
@BubblysLife - Fortunately my ex and I do not have any children together, but I have been through similar ordeals with a father of one of my children. Amazing how threats can come back on them and bite them in the ass. This ex told me at first he wanted to remain friends, then said he wanted nothing to do with me. That’s fine by me…then he should just stay away from any sites he knows I have. He just shouldn’t be interested…just don’t look. I refuse to lock my Xanga, though I did make my MySpace private. If he could find a way to see my Protected posts, I am sure he would, but HA HA, he can’t. I don’t add anyone on there I don’t know. And no problem…rant away!
I may need to reinstall site meter on my site, it isn’t showing my visitors. I keep a log and it’s been messing up for a while now. Fortunately I know all about those who visit me, those that I would consider ‘stalkers’ which is broadly defined. One in particular found the post you referenced, but still won’t talk to me.
I have even more ways to keep track of people who visit your site. Message me if you want to know more and some pretty cool stuff.
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